- The Facts:
This TED Talk perfectly displays why perceiving yourself as “ugly” can have a negative impact on you and why it’s so important to develop self.
- Reflect On:
Does society profit off of our insecurities? Who defines what’s “beautiful?” and where did it come from. Why do so many people look down on themselves in this regard?
To start, if you’ve ever looked down upon yourself or spoken the words “I’m so ugly” to yourself, you’re not alone. You could be someone who has an immense amount of self love and still have some self doubt occasionally, and that’s perfectly understandable. We live in a society that perpetuates the belief that beauty is only skin deep, and it can be difficult to ignore that message every moment of every day.
However, it’s when you start to believe those thoughts fuelled by hate rather than those focused on self love that it becomes a deeper issue. If you feel like your inner thoughts are filled with more body shaming and negativity than they are with positivity and self love, ask yourself: Why do I feel this way, and when did I start to let my outer appearance determine my self worth?
Even if you don’t experience body image issues, odds are that you know someone who does. An astonishing 10,000 people every month ask Google, “Am I ugly?”
I make a point of expressing to my friends just how beautiful they are all the time. I’ve listened to them on countless occasions discuss how perceivably “ugly” they think they are, and it always shocks me. These are my friends, the most beautiful people I know. How can they not see their beauty in the same way I so clearly do? How can they not value themselves as much as I value them?
Sometimes compliments can rub people the wrong way as well. By complimenting one another on our physical appearances, are we giving too much power to the way we look? I personally think that complimenting someone on the way they look can brighten their day, because I know it brightens mine. However, I encourage you to compliment people on their inner beauty as well, because that’s what truly matters anyways.